I can’t believe it’s already December! This year has just flown by. I hope you are all preparing for the holidays and are getting a head start on your shopping :) I have had a few people ask me about this particular topic of the merging of households and moving in together. As you may know I got married in August, so I am (recently) very familiar with this process. Luckily for my husband I am somewhat of an organized control freak….so even though we didn't live together before we got married, it was still a pretty painless process. I documented a few of the most helpful tips if you are going through this. Everyone operates differently, but this is a good place to start. Moving is a perfect opportunity to leave behind items that are taking up empty space in your house and mind and only bring the good with you; the things that make you feel like your best self!
First off, CONGRATS! This is such an exciting time & it shouldn’t be made stressful by the process of moving. The first question people have is "who’s stuff do we keep?" I would suggest making a list of what each of you has in the major rooms of the house (i.e. Kitchen, Living Room/Common Space, Bathroom, Closet & Laundry Room). Sit down together and evaluate what you have doubles of & what things you will still need to purchase. (**If you are not in the same city or cannot meet easily, Google Docs and Google Sheets are great for being able to share information in real time!) If you have doubles, I always recommend keeping the one in the best condition. If one of you has a strong emotional connection to something, talk about why and evaluate together. Sometimes just talking about it allows you to come to terms to parting with it. If you are doing this after signing a lease or buying a new house, you have an advantage. You know exactly how many rooms and how much space you have. Only keep what your new home calls for. For example, the number of bedrooms/beds will let you know how many sets of sheets you need. Number of bathrooms lets you know how many towels, etc. If you aren’t sure what your new space will look like, that’s okay too! Just use your best judgement.
Kitchen: The doubles rule and best condition rule are the most important. Be realistic in what your new kitchen can hold and what you used in your last home. If you have had that juicer for four years and never used it, maybe this is the time to part with it.
Closets: You should BOTH go through the Closet Organization process which you can find here. Do it before you move all your clothes so that you aren’t bringing unnecessary things or unwanted things into your new place.
Bathrooms: Toss all expired things! We all have them looming in the back of the drawers. Now is the time to part with them. Also evaluate bath towels and use the best condition rule with your new roomie’s towels :)
Living Room/Common Space: Again, if you know what your new place looks like, what can it fit? What will look best? How do you want to decorate? Only bring the items into this space that achieve what you want your new home to look and feel like.
As you are packing, divide into donate & move piles. Have designated (labeled) zones so you both are on the same page. Pack up all the donation items and take inventory of them using this list. Talk to your accountant about being able to write off these donations! If some items you are wanting to get rid of are in good condition, try selling them. Websites like Ebay, Craigslist and Poshmark are just a few suggestions. Do this prior to moving into your new home. Only what you will be keeping should be brought into the new space.
Lastly, as you are unpacking in your new home together, remember that it is now both of your homes and that all the items are both of yours. This will make the transition much easier :) Enjoy your new roomie!! :D
If there is anything I didn’t address that you have questions about, feel free to email me here!
Emily has a Bachelor of Science in Industrial Engineering from Iowa State University. There she learned how valuable organization can be in being productive. She chose to use this knowledge and help others achieve this productivity and optimization in their homes and small businesses. Read & Enjoy and as always, let us know if you have any questions!